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Answer by Greetmir
Infant development experts state that teething usually starts when your baby is around four months old, and continues until he or she is about two years old, at which time you get a reprieve until about five years old when the baby teeth begin being replaced by grown-up teeth. Some babies teeth early—around three months old, and some teeth later, granting fatigued parents a few extra nights of well-earned sleep which they might spend worrying about the fact that the baby has yet to teeth when everyone else at Mommy and Me has already gained the admirable but odd-looking lower central incisors that make baby grins look hilarious to people who do not have children.
Premature babies might teeth later—count it as a blessing. Some babies do not develop their first teeth until 7 months or more, and a few might even be a year old before showing a single tooth. Like many things about babies, you cannot schedule progress on someone else’s age chart: your baby will develop teeth when he or she is ready—and whether you are ready or not.

When babies begin teething, the order of the process generally proceeds along in fairly predictable stages. First come the two lower middle teeth; next, the four upper middle teeth arrive, and after that come incisors, the furthest forward molars and finally the back molars. The first teeth might be the easiest for many babies because the teeth are sharp and thin, so they make it through the gum tissue with less trouble than the broad molars do.

An infant who’s slicing teeth can be one miserable companion, but some babies hardly seem to notice the change. Because the tooth is breaking down and slicing through the gum, it’s normal for babies to experience throbbing pain, swelling and the urge to bite. Biting might be ascribed to crankiness, which is also a symptom associated with teething, but in fact, putting pressure on sore gums from the outside equalizes the pressure exerted by the rising tooth and numbs the pain—until the outside pressure stops.

It’s a well-known fact that, once a baby reaches teething age, everything goes into the mouth. For nursing mothers, it can be a frustration when the child you have been waking yourself each two hours to feed suddenly bites you hard, but try not to take it personally. Do stop your baby and so, “no biting!” in your “I mean it” voice. (If you do not have your “I mean it” voice in place yet, here is where you develop it). Do not worry: you will not traumatize your child and you might be able to get the message across and continue to breastfeed in an atmosphere of mutual respect and (guarded) trust. Some babies will not stop biting when nursing, in which case, mothers usually decide to wean their children. This is one of the first times you will have to decide whether you are going to be an assertive parent who manages to meet the needs of her baby while maintaining her own need not to be injured, or a resentful martyr who bears unnecessary bruises and whose child will go on to bite babysitters, grandparents and even pets in her quest for something firm to chew on.

…. etc etc etc including lots more info and advice about teething here …

http://www.parenttime.com/babyarticles/teethingschedule.html

I hope this helps you … and … congratulations !

Answer by KP
That’s teething! Rub the plaque off her gums with a cold washcloth and give her different toys to chew on. Sometimes nothing will soothe them when they are teething, just hold her; it is instant relief when the teeth finally pop through.

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Answer by jingledelz
I feel like telling you you are stupid since thats what you have been putting as your answer for everyone else this morning.

Now i’m wondering if lack of sleep has made you into a cow. Probably.

There is nothing you can do to make her sleep through the night except not get up to her. Let her learn to self settle. You were lucky with your son that he learnt easily on his own. ALL babies wake often during the night but the ones that “sleep through” just know to go back to sleep.
Try not getting up to her as much. Yes, she will probably cry and wake up the whole home for a tiny while but she will eventually learn that she needs to sleep during night time and everyone else will get a superior nights sleep.
I’m not suggesting you leave her to scream her head off for a long time. Try 10 minute intervals or even 20 minute intervals if you are comfortable with that.
My sons slept through the night until he was 4 months old then started waking, I just fed him and he eventually starting sleeping through the night again at around 6-7 months old. If he woke after that during the night I did the CIO method – 15 minute intervals.

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*Also, ive tried putting him to bed later- thinking he will sleep later –didnt work.

Thanks in advance for all suggestions,tips,ideas awnsers etc.

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Answer by a_hunters_wife
He is teething. Feel in his mouth I can nearly guarantee you will find a tooth coming. My daughter always had trouble sleeping when she was working on another tooth. She usually did this for a week then was back to her normal self. Try teething tablets, and frozen wash rags. This might help!

Answer by JJbham
I know how hard that can be, but sometimes there is no explanation. Maybe a growth spurt? Maybe just a new transition? My twins went through this also, and still have not gotten back to the sleeping late, and no matter how late i put them to bed they just get up the same time ha ha. I know it can be frustrating, but just be happy he slept so well for so long.

A recommendation would be to try and work with the new schedule. Create a solid routine out of the new sleep patterns. It could very well be a growth spurt where he will go back to “normal” in a few days-a few weeks. It could also be teething, so maybe check his mouth and get him some Tylenol if you see any new teeth coming through. Just wait until he is refusing to nap altogether, and getting up at night to ask for water ha ha, now that is sleep deprivation (YIKES)!

(PS: my boys started waking up at 4-5 am again for another bottle around this age….if you give him a bottle in the morning will he fall back asleep?)

Answer by KC
possibly teething, or sometimes babies just up and change their routines… he is getting older and more curious… do not let it worry you… unless he acts like he is not feeling well, he is just growing

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Answer by jennanderton2006
try to feed him more right be for bed. give him cereal instead of just formula right before bed a full baby will sleep longer

Answer by Miss America
Schdule feed him. This is how it works: Wakes up in morning, feed him, play time, put him to bed for nap. Wakes up from nap, feed him, play time, put him to bed. Repeat. A week or two of this he might just be sleeping longer and longer at night. Babies like schdule’s, and get used to a pattern. It works- it’s not simple at first, but it works

Answer by offshore_idol
This might be hard! My son was 6 months old and I asked his physician the same question. He told me let him cry, so I did and my husband at the time was upset and went sleep downstairs. It was very hard for me too! But I did it and about three days went by and he was sleeping through the night. Another thing do not ever give him cereal before bed time. My physician stated that it stretches there stomach and they will wake up more often because they will get hungry faster.

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The Period of PURPLE Crying
Starting at about two weeks of age, some babies start crying more and might be hard to soothe. As a result, parents might feel guilty and angry if they aren’t able to console them. The Period of Purple Crying explains that if the baby is not ill and parents have tried everything they can think of to soothe the baby, it is okay if they can’t stop their baby from crying. This is true even if the crying lasts for hours. Not being able to soothe an infant does not make mother and father bad parents. Some babies are just going to cry. It will end, and life will return to normal.

The letters in PURPLE stand for the common parts of non-stop crying in infants:

P – peak pattern (crying peaks around 2 months, then decreases)
U – unpredictable (crying for long periods can come and go for no reason)
R – resistant to soothing (the baby might keep crying for long periods)
P – pain-like look on face
L – long bouts of crying (crying can go on for hours)
E – evening crying (baby cries more in the afternoon and evening)

How to Cope
Even if you know that non-stop infant crying is not your fault, crying can still be hard to cope with. The keys to getting through it are trying different things and having a plan.

Try Different Things—Basic Soothing Tips for a Fussy Baby

Feed Your Baby- The main reason babies cry is because they are hungry. A full tummy might be just what baby is looking for. Keep in mind that even adults sometimes get hungry before the next mealtime. So even if it hasn’t been that long since your baby was fed, hunger might still be the cause of the crying.

Check Your Baby’s Temperature- He might be fussing because he is not feeling well. Use a clean digital thermometer under the arm. If he is less than 3 months old and his temperature is above 100.4° F or if you think he is sick, call the doctor.

Hold Your Baby – This might be on your lap, in a sling, or against your chest—whatever is most comfortable for you and baby. Always remember to support your baby’s head.

Cuddle, coo, read, sing. (P.S. Your baby doesn’t know if you can’t carry a tune—it’s all music to his ears!)

Rock baby gently, walk around, dance slowly. Even if your baby doesn’t stop crying, he will know you care and are there for him. A baby swing might work. Make sure you use one that rocks side to side and not front to back.

Check Your Baby’s Diaper- Check to see if your baby has a dirty diaper. Babies should have between eight and ten wet diapers each day. Your baby might be crying to let you know it is time for a change. Also watch for diaper rash, which can make baby fussy. Ask your physician what to use to treat diaper rash.

Check Your Baby’s Clothes- Is something too tight? Is a tag rubbing baby’s skin? Is baby too hot or too cool? Try taking off socks or putting on a tiny hat. Some babies feel superior wrapped up securely in a light blanket.

Create “white noise”-Some babies like the sound of the vacuum cleaner or dishwasher. A radio or Television playing in the background might work, too.

Take Baby for a Walk-A change of scenery might help. It will probably help you to get out, too.

Have a Plan

Let Others Help You—Take friends and family up on their offers to watch the baby for a while. Use this time to get some work done, run an errand, or even take a nap. Do not feel bad about leaving your baby with someone for a couple of hours. Mothers and Fathers need some time for themselves as well.

Join a Play or Support Group—By getting together with others who have babies the same age, you can share stories and tips. Just seeing that you are not alone can be a huge help. If you can’t get to a group, perhaps you can find one or two other parents in your neighborhood who would like to get together. Call First Call for Help 211 (just dial 211) to get information about local groups that meet your needs (twins, stay-at-home moms, newcomers, etc.)

Take a Break—If nothing else works and you have no one to call on, put the baby in the cradle or crib and walk away. You need to take care of you before you can take care of the baby. Rest for a few minutes, calm down and regroup. Listen to some music, read, have a snack, do something else for a few minutes. A parent who is angry and upset might take it out on the baby. Remember, this is not your fault and it is not the baby’s fault. It is just the way it is. This stage will end! Your baby will learn to smile and laugh and play. If you can be as comforting as possible through this difficult time, your baby will also learn that you are there for him no matter what.
And Im also going to add this.. I got a brand of bottles called ” born free” that help with colic and ear infections and its like 10 dollars a bottle but after I purchased my son these bottles he has been the happiest thing ever!!!!!
Yes this might sound like “colic” but maybe you are mixing “colic” with this such purple phase. This wasnt posted for anyone to be rude or post something mean just to ease some new mothers minds… You wanna be rude go somewhere else.

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Answer by strongerwomane
AKA Colic

Answer by Young@58
Thank you for providing this information for new parents.
YOU should be the one receiving the points!!!

Answer by Paula
Dear Miranda,
Awesome info ! I wish I had read this 4 years ago! But we both lived through it! Alex is nearly 4 now and still cries easily so…. Anyway-good job on this.

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anything will help though!!

& how to i get him to nap?? i cannot find one of those things you can put your baby in on the beach… i waited too long to shop.

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Answer by forever love
I have heard that if you put baby powder on them before they play in the sand it comes off easier and then you could also put some on while trying to get the sand off. As for the nap you could try one of those huge umbrellas to block the sun and put him on a blanket. Good Luck and Have Fun!

Answer by butterfly
let your baby crawl around(if he is crawling yet).I’ve taken my daughter to the beach several times and she adores it.There is somewhere to wash your baby off at all beaches so that solves the sand being everywhere.my daughter just took a nap in my arms.Oh and good luck with your son eating sand…for some reason babies love it.

Answer by Courage
Bring an umbrella to protect him and you from the sun. Put a blanket down. Make sure that the sand is not scalding because it can really heat up. Bring plenty of drinks. As for napping… I took my 9 month old to the zoo and she stayed up the entire time through her nap, just so happy to be seeing so much. She slept on the way home. It doesn’t injured to break schedule now and then.

With sand… my mother used to just strip us in the lavatory and wash us off with water from home. It doesn’t get all of it but it helps the car. In the car, lay out things to catch the sand, like beachtowels or sheets. Just plan on pulling the carseat apart and shaking everything out later. You just cannot keep the sand out. And change the diaper before going home. I know more than one baby that tried to sneak the beach home that way.

Watch out for allergies though. The sand, the water, they all have fish in them which means if there is a shell or fish allergy then the baby might begin reacting. If a reaction happens, wash the baby absolutely with clean water, and then take them to a hospital as it can get worse.

And remember sun safety above all else. Baby’s that age really cannot have sunscreen, so a floppy hat, a shirt, and the umbrella is really important. There is nothing so horrible as a baby with a sunburn, not to mention it can be very dangerous.

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Answer by feministrainbow
Oh dear, you seem to have the same problem as I do. When I first brought my twins home (im alone all day as well) all they did was cry. ALL they did, and no matter how much I held them or rocked them they just would not stop. I started to resent them because everyone was happy and I was miserable, all the time. But, have hope. I know it’s corny, and I know you think it’ll never get superior but it will. Slowly, very slowly but very surely.
Walking away isnt a bad thing to do either, it’s superior than abusing the child and you arent neglecting her when yuo do that. Just breathe, sit there and then go back.

Answer by me4tennessee
It is fine to leave a crying baby in their crib. (not all day but 1/2 hour or an hour) Keep changing formula to see if that can help also!

Get help from friends, family, and the father! Take some time for yourself it is okay to be selfish for an hour or three to take a bath and a nap!

Answer by suggir_bear
Don’t beat yourself up! We have all been there. I know for my personal sanity there were times where I had to walk away and let my son cry. It doesn’t mean your bad mother at all. In fact, I think it makes you a good mother because you know you have reached your limit and you took the appriopriate action of cooling off and calming down.

Do you have a swing you could put her in? That always seems to help. Have you tried proping up her crib/bassinett mattress to a 45 degree angle. Sometimes with reflux it’s painful for them to lay flat. Also, try some mylicon drops or gripe water for the colic. It works magic!!

Also, ask your physician about adding a bit of rice cereal to the formual. My doc recommended that to me when my son was exhibiting signs of reflux. And, it really did work. It was not a full serving just enough to stick to his ribs. And, after that we had no problems with the colic.

I think babies are a lot like us. Sometimes they just need their space.

My son would instantly calm down when my hubby craddled him in his arms, patted his bottom and paced the hallway. Also, try putting her over your shoulder patting her bottom and pacing. Placing her belly side down on your knees will help relieve any pressure in her belly.

As a stay at home mother I find it essential to make time for myself. I schedule time with my husband once a week to get out of the house. Sometimes I meet some girls from the neighborhood (a MOMS club( at the Mexican resteraunt for dinner and margaritas (ok one, lol). Other times I meet my sister and go shopping. But, most of the time I go to Barnes and Noble or the mall and have some coffee and just enjoy the quiet.

It’s essential to find time away from the home for yourself. It will rejuvinate you and keep you from getting burnt out. Just make a schedule for your husband. The first time out I was only gone for an hour until hubby got okay with it. Now, I can leave for three hours or more and do whatever I want…:))

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Answer by *Secrets* *Of* *Truth* 08
We aren’t quiet at all. lol We actually used the carpet cleaner while our nearly 7 month old was sleeping 2 days ago…he did not even wake. We were the same way with our first.

Answer by Mrs. Strain
We have chihuahuas that love to bark, so trying to keep the home quiet all the time is impossible. We did pretty much exactly what you did. My baby learned to pretty much sleep through anything, but I tried to be considerate of her as well during her naps.

Answer by I f*ing care
I tiptoed and I still do, not because I want to because I have to. My son is the lightest sleeper in the world and I believe it’s because I kept it so quite for him. He is used to the dog noises but anything else wakes him up.

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Answer by Spicey
Maybe she is starting to need a tiny cereal, which you have to mix with your milk in a bottle. Even though your milk should be enough nutrients, at 9 months they need some sensory experience with taste buds. It all depends on how long you plan to nurse, and if you or she wants to bottle feed with breast milk and cereal.

Answer by Mandas_Mumma_<3 <3
our daughter is 8 months next week and as i type she is asleep in her cot.
i know your not supposed to feed bub everytime to put them to sleep or else they relate feeding and sleeping and cacnt have one without the other but sometimes u cant help it–bub is due for both a sleep and a nap so they have to happen one after the other, its just the way life is!

my daughter has a snuggle blankie which she has had since about two/three months old. we originally gave it to her because of her newborn startle reflex but now we give it to her and she cuddles it, putting it over her eyes to create darkness and falls asleep–yes sometimes she tosses and turns a tiny before hand but usually she falls asleep quite swiftly when its nap time.

i would recommend getting bub one maybe?

another thing we did was when we saw our daughters first signs of tiredness–you know, being irritable, rubbing her eyes, blinking a lot with heavy eyes, etc. i would out her in her bed, tuck her in and make up a bed time story involving her–mainly so she heard my voice and knew i was still there…i would just speak until she fell asllep or came close to it, then id state i love you and walk out closing the door behind me.

now she knows when she is exhausted and i put her in bed she goes to sleep and i dont have to tell her the story anymore (altho i sometimes still like too) i usually put her mobile lullaby music on and still tell her i love her and leave the room.

yes sometimes she gets upset and starts crying—if its just a whinge i still walk out and listen out for her (if its more then that i take her and try again or stay with her a tiny longer) but usually she cuddles her blankie and goes to sleep.

GOOD LUCK

Answer by 1stTimeMum
What is your bed time routine at night? Is there a way to incorporate it into the day as well? That is what we do with our 8 month old. His going to bed routine in the day is – we state ‘time for sleep, mummy and daddy love you’ we lie him down, give him his dummy and wrap him. Sing twinkle twinkle tiny star. Lie him down in cot. state ‘time for sleep, night night’ and leave the room.
Of course at night time the routine incorporates a bath and stories first and then a bottle but the rest is the same.

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I was so excited to be home with her 3 days a week, but it’s swiftly turning into a nightmare. She gets up at 6 a.m. each day (her schedule from when I was working) and is rip-raring to go from the minute she gets up. Her father leaves at 6:30 am and comes home at 6:30 pm. It feels like each single thing is a battle with her. It used to be kind of like that on the weekends, but not as bad, because her father is here to help me and we split duties. Now that it’s just me, I am realizing that:
1) she doesn’t follow directions at ALL
2) she tantrums when she doesn’t get her way, and I have been putting her in time out whenever she does that, but it doesn’t seem to help
3) she turns each “fun” activity into a miserable event by whining or throwing things about/making a large mess (I’ve been trying to bake with her, do crafts, play toys)
4) she has a terrible attitude in general (doesn’t want to share, or ever lose at a game, etc.)
5) and she refuses to nap! even when she is clearly exhausted, and i know that the daycare had her napping each day at 12:30, but she will not do it at home. she rips her room apart, throws a tantrum–it’s awful. I just got her to go down for a nap now, after an 1 1/2 hour battle!
6) i also have a lot of problems getting her to eat. there is really no junk food in my house, i do not purchase the stuff. She just will not eat anything I put in front of her (peanut butter & jelly, eggs, etc.) She plays with it and I worry that she will lose weight.

Do any SAH mothers have some tips for me on how to get her on track? She is driving me crazy!

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Answer by Val
It’s going to take some time getting used to, shes been in day care and is used to that, just be patient with her, make sure your taking her outside often and let her run run run that will wear her out and give both of you some nice exercise and otherwise with the food try buying lunchables and finger foods, let her snack throughout the day if she is not eating a good meal, mabye take her somewhere she can play and interract with other kids there is lots to do its just going some time for both of you, try to sit her down and speak to her and just make sure your both having fun even when things get stressful!!

Answer by mysteriousman
you know she is testing you and she is winning…you do not want a kid like that as a teen is she is a pian just put her in time out and she screams and cryies just to get ur attention…ignore her as long as u can clearly tell she is ok

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