I read just now (tips on SIDS, I am terrified about that!) that there are gases in the mattress and it should be aired out before use???

And I keep reading about having fans to avoid a SIDS situation, do they mean a plug-in fan, or would a ceiling fan on med or low work??

I’m going crazy!!! now I am thinking about the inclined sleeping postion- What about that???

Okay so that was like three questions- but any advice on them??

Sincerely,
(just became) a crazy- safety- freak mom

P.S. He is due next week, so you can only envision how fast my mind is going!!

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Answer by tk
Well, first of all the fan thing is mostly to circulate air. Where the problem starts is when parents put a tiny baby to sleep in a room and bundle them all up tight and then close the door or nearly close it so then there is no good air circulation. So just by leaving the door open it helps or even having the baby in the same room as you. But, a ceiling fan would be just fine if that is what you have.
Just put the baby to sleep in its back and do not overheat the baby.
They do not really move at all until they are like 4 months old so you do not have to worry about sleep positioning as long as they sleep on their backs. But, during naps when you are in the same room putting them to sleep on the belly is good.
Try not to worry!

Answer by ahrhinehart
Air out the mattress anyway just in case. You never know what kinds of chemicals are used while making the mattress.

Any kind of air circulation will help prevent SIDS. Just keep them warm. The plug in fans you can position so they are not blowing on the baby.

The inclined sleeping position will help them when they spit up or have reflux. The bassinet that my son was in at the hospital had a sleeping wedge in it to keep his head elevated.

Hope this helps.

Answer by Jan M
All of these things are thought to maybe reduce sids, but the truth is no one really knows why it happens, if you are that freaked you might want to think about getting an angel care monitor, I have one for my daughter and can now actually sleep at night instead of constantly getting up to go check and make sure she is breathing. the angel care monitor will sound an alarm if she doesn’t take a breath in 20 seconds and you can set it to tick each time she takes a breath, it’s great for peace of mind.

http://www.angelcare-monitor.com/

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Answer by threenorns
i know you have got a lot on your plate – but for my money, the answer to a lot of problems is breastfeeding. are you breastfeeding? it helps ease both reflux and colic – breast milk contains stem cells and other components which are used to swiftly soothe and heal the GI tract in cases of reflux and gastroenteritis. pumping would be a good way to go and the ideal part is, you will not be shelling out a small fortune in formula.

what about a baby sling or wrap? there is ways to wear twins simultaneously or you can just wear the baby that needs soothing. you will have full mobility to tend to your other baby and the rest of your daily activities. i’ve even worn my baby in the shower (i put a huge bib over her head so water did not get onto her face because she was only newborn at the time).

here’s the wiki on babywearing: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Babywearing

benefits include reduced instance of baby flathead (caused by being left in a baby seat or automobile seat for too long which reduces mobility and affects muscle development in the upper torso); improved weight gain in small or premature babies; and early independence for the baby.

Answer by Jennifer H
Wow twins! I couldn’t;t imagine! My son is 7months old. He was colic! It was a very rough time! And that was just with one of them! What helped me was I purchased a baby carrier so i could hold him and still get stuff done and the movement helped him a lot. Swings are very helpful! as are bouncy chairs. I have both. I tried all baby safe meds for this. Even doc prescribed ones. NOTHING helped. My girlfriend actually advocate this stuff to me called Colic Calm. Check it out online. Its like 20 dollars a bottle (2 oz) you can give it to them a few times a day. (Which in the beginning i did, but then you just wont need to) Its an all natural product. Safe, and works miracles! Hang in there!! My son finally out grew it about 5 months old! Now he is pretty much a happy baby! Also, try soothing music. My son really liked country ( i was never a huge fan) but i think it had something to do with the mello ness of the songs. and a Noise maker helped us too. Just know your not alone! And stay strong. It does get fusterating at times so just make sure you find some time for you. Like when your husband gets home. the criing gets to be a lot! My son would cry for 8 hours straight some days!

Answer by l1l_m1ss_biotch69
You can try either of those they should work, when i had my son who is 16 months old now he loved to be in both of them which helped i mean i could put him in either of them and i could still get things done either shower or home work and sometimes he would end up falling asleep in it

I’d state try either of them it would not injured i mean you could always get both and that way you would have something for them both so you could get things done that you need to get done

congrats and good luck to you!!

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Answer by Ashley- Suggest for Christ
I think it’s something that she will grow out of. Clearly the falls do not seem to be hurting her and hardly wake her up. You could try getting a couple of long body pillows and placing them between her and the edge of the bed. They will be a barrier for her, but will also soften her fall if she still rolls out- She will push the pillows off the bed and then fall onto them. Giver her a few more weeks to get used to the bed.

Answer by Chloe74
I’m pretty sure they sell netted side rails. I would look into buying something like that.

Answer by Sue
Two weeks is a long time so I can comprehend your worry. Could you have the bed against a wall to stop her falling out at least one side. Also try tucking her in really tightly, that might help. Finally Ikea might have some bed rails that fit a variety of toddler beds. Eventually I am sure it will sort itself out though, and she will get use to the bed and stop rolling over so far.
Good luck.

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There, hopefully that will curb some of the lectures I know I will get. Now on with my question.
I would like specifics from other mothers on how they do this. I lay in the nursing position and do not move, which means when I wake up my body is stiff, my arm is numb and my back hurts. I asked a friend who co-slept all night until her son was 2 and she stated that is the way it is. Anyone have some other positions?
Do you switch sides, so you feed from a different breast, or do you always feed fromthe same one? Is there a way to feed from the opposite breast?
Do you leave your baby in a sidelying position after feeding, or push them onto their back? (my son is 5 months, he just rolls himself back onto his side, but I would like to know for future babies)
I usually rest a hand on his hip or leg, or hold his hand. Sometimes I try wrapping my arm around him when he lays on his back – carefull to have my arm across his legs/waist so not to inhibit his breathing. Do other mothers do this, or do you keep your hands to yourself?
Any other tips?
Thanks so much! With all I have read, no one ever speaks about he specifics and I’d appreciate input from other moms.

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Answer by Dyot
“Is there a way to feed from the opposite breast?”

Yes — just roll over a bit to nurse from the “top” one. That might be easier stated than done if baby is young and you are still regularly engorged, but it will come.

When my daughter was very very little and still ‘floppy,’ I simply slept next to her. When she was a bit older I often slept on my side with her in my arms. I cannot remember but I think I probably helped her roll back onto her back before she was old enough to do it herself.

My daughter is now 26mo and after nursing I — well, usually I get up and pee, but if I am going back to sleep I do not stay in a nursing position, but instead roll off into something more comfortable after nursing.

When she was young she was a prodigious spitter-upper and she was usually on a massive waterproof-backed mat, and that made it simple to shift her from place to place in the bed [read: mattress on the floor] without disturbing her; I could just tug the mat along…

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Answer by Jasmin
Let him sleep in the middle of the bed so there is no chance of him falling out. Put him right up the top of the bed, so he doesn’t get stuck under the blankets, with a pillow on each side but not to close, and get a spare pillow to put between the top of the mattress and the bed head, to stop him hurting himself or falling out. hope this helps

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Answer by lee
I believe it is because the smoke lingers on you and can affect their breathing. Smoking parents have been linked to SIDS. Most will advise against co sleeping at all though, that I have seen

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My daughter usually sleeps in her crib in her own room, but lately she has been waking up in the middle of the night, sometimes she just can’t get herself back to sleep, other times she wants to nurse. She is just over 5 months old. Lately I have been bringing her into bed with my husband and I, I find we ALL sleep superior this way, especially my daughter, she is so much more peaceful and wakes up happy. Last night I brought her to bed with us, but it was very cold, so I kept pulling the covers up in my sleep, then I would wake up all scared that I might suffocate her. I am a light sleeper especially with her, and I was aware of any movements she makes during the night, but I am just curious, how do you co-sleep and ensure the baby is safe? On warmer nights I do not worry about it as much b/c I do not try to cover up as much, but it’s gonna be cold again tonight!
Also, I do not want to wear anything warmer myself b/c no matter how many times I move her away at night, she always nuzzles her way back in so she is facing me, either on her side or on her back with her head turned towards me. I do not want her to get smothered under my clothing either.

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Answer by NY_Attitude
We coslept with our son until he was 2.5 years of age- we transitioned him to his own bed starting at 2 years of age. We are now cosleeping with our baby who is 16 months old. Here are our tricks:

-Put your mattress on the floor and up against the wall.
-Baby proof your room- electric outlets are covered and doors closed. If baby can’t have it- put it up and away.
-Pajamas with the feet in them. They work wonders at keeping a baby warm and cozy! We leave the heat on 75 during the winter to keep the home warm downstairs and 78 upstairs at night. During the day, we turn it down to 72 upstairs because it stays warmer.

I had a pillow for both of our babies until they were 10 months old that they actually laid on- the long ends of the pillow was where their feet and head went. This kept them propped up for nursing and prevented me from rolling on them. I slept on my side with their pillow pulled up to me. It’s astonishing how they find you at night is not it?

You will get her out of your bed when the time is right- we did it and our 11 year old has autism. It’s so true- everyone sleeps superior when cosleeping is in place. Our baby does not own a crib. We opted not to purchase one because our son- who had a beautiful and costly crib and all the fancy bedding never used his. The cats did though. *shrugs*

Good luck to you!

EDITED TO ADD:
Roberta- it DOES NOT effect your intimacy!!!
My LORD! After having 2 kids and 13 years of marriage here I have to state that is the biggest misconception!

1. Who states sex has to happen in a BED?
Neither of our kids were conceived in a bed.
2. Who states sex has to happen at NIGHT????
Get real! Once you have children- you need to become a lot more clever about intimacies anyway.

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