“A baby was born in Peru, with genetic instructions for two. Father made a stink when the mom selected pink so they settled on both pink and blue.”

So I am just asking anyone: Do you think it might cross a line for decency? I mean it does happen, does it make a child obscene? How could any newborn child be obscene? The filth would only be in someone’s mind. But aside from the issue that of course an actual individual’s privacy would never permit making such a discussion along with their identity. Limiting things to the fictional then, the question becomes: is it healthy to treat the idea of such kids as taboo or is it okay to make full mention of them along with “normal” babies? If it’s not taboo then what about this sort of limerick among other poems and such in a tiny book centered on babies? To me it just demonstrates the parents strong love for their child and each other in suggesting that the biggest problem in dealing with such an occurrence is solved in deciding what colors to decorate the nursery in. It’s nearly making the fact that their child having two sets of DNA if not a small thing then at least nothing that is going to shake them in their love of each other or the child. Obviously not that some folks could not see in it recommendations of various leanings or politics, morality stances etc. However nothing of the sort is in there at all, and for that matter one might follow it to down right obscene scenarios if they were bent like that. In each case it would all spring from their own heart, as I guarantee it was not in the writer’s mind. Well anyway what do you all state about it? Thanks in advance

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Answer by *KELSEY*PPA*
uhm, well…it DOES happen, and I do not think there is any shame or need to hide it. Its not the babies fault afterall.

As far as decency goes, the author was not making fun of the baby so it seems decent to me. Was there a NEED for such a thing to even be written? Not really, but it was.

Answer by ♥GGM♥ Goo Goo G’Joob
Really? You wrote that poem? It sounds like a 2nd grader wrote it……..Just sayin’.

Answer by Fanta Chick
ok i dont get it at all
email me please and tell me what its about

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My MIL is trying to control everything about my pregnancy What can I do? Please Help ?

I’m 39 weeks pregnant with my first daughter, Elizabeth Gabrielle, and my MIL has been trying to control each single decision about her since the day I told her I was pregnant. My MIL hates the name my DH and I have picked; she states it’s too “common”. When I told her the color scheme for the nursery was aqua blue and yellow, she told me that those were unsightly colors and she would be decorating the nursery since I have “no taste”. My MIL even came over with cans of pink and red paint and told me I needed to leave the home so she could redo the nursery the “right” way. I kicked her out, but she hasn’t let it go. I’ve made it very clear from the beginning that the only people granted at the hospital would be my husband and I, and everyone else was more than welcome to visit us once we get home and are settled in, which my husband and I figured would be about 4 or 5 days. My MIL told me that I was selfish and she announced that she would be the first to hold our daughter once she was born. My husband has sat down with her and explained that it’s our baby, not hers, and she stated that it doesn’t matter because since were first time parents, we have no business being alone with our baby. No one else in his family or my family acts like she does. I picked out an outfit for my daughter to come home from the hospital in, but my MIL threw it away and replaced it with awful red frilly dress that she states is “perfect” for a newborn. I told her she had no right to do that and she left my home crying. She called my husband that night and told him I was a horrible person and she threated that she would call CPS if we keep her away from her grandbaby.

I can’t take this anymore. I’ve tried to be nice to her, I’ve tried to explain to her that we have no intention of keeping our daughter away from her, but she just doesn’t listen. If something doesn’t go her way, she throws a fit. My husband gave up on her and told me I’d just have to suck it up and deal with it, because he can’t just ignore his mother. I will NEVER ask my husband to kick his mom out of his life, but I don’t know how much more of this I can take.

Have any mommies been in a situation like this before? How did you handle it? Any help at all is greatly appreciated. Thanks for reading.

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Answer by Ethel
Keep re-affirming your good boundaries, she needs to keep hearing it – it might take some time though. I recommend she barred from your delivery room and from visiting you in the hospital as well and make sure someone is there to manage her when she does visit at your home later. She cannot do any of what she has threatened and remind her if she continues you will get a court order barring her from seeing her grandchild as you have fears of kidnapping.

Answer by Claire
Wow, you have my each sympathy!

Not personally going through that, nor will I be but the hospital will be happy to refuse anyone entry that you request not to be there. If you tell them you do not want visitors then they are obliged to make sure that thats what you get.

Me I would have to insist that she were removed from my home and live. If she calls Child Protective Services on you, what will they find? Two doting parents and an overbearing grandmother? Let her call them, so what!!!

Feel for you! Huge style. Im 39 weeks pregnant this day and if my mum/mil started like that I would have to turf them out my life! It is not right!

Answer by Laura
Once the baby is born, she will be busy loving the grandbaby. Even though she is a critical person, she is the woman who raised your husband. State “thanks” for anything she does because you will be raising your daughter to put up with rude people. By the way, when you are a grandma, remember this – do not interfere in your kids’ lives.

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Answer by Artie Lange Fan
Parents and education make your baby smarter, not the color of the paint on the wall.

Edit: Pick green, green is a great color.

Answer by scummins08
When i think of intelligence i think of yellow or a forest green.

Answer by DarlingNicki
Yes, it is what you do and how your child is educated and what he/she is surrounded by that make a difference… that being stated a nice soothing color would probably be nice…

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Answer by Grace
What about purple? Maroon? Orange?
Or neutral colors like yellow, cream, white, or green.

Answer by mommy-to-be
yellow, cream, or just “rainbow”, meaning a neutral background with animals and plants with all the colors.

Answer by Heather
Brown and purple, brown and teal, or sage green and yellow,

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i wanted to do chocolate brown at the bottom seperated w/ border and then pink on top

will that look dumb with expresso furniture pushed up againest a chocolate brown wall?

or should i do a light brown b/c expresso is very deep dark brown and then a lighter baby pink on top of that? i rlly like the chocolate color though and i cannot trade in my expresso furniture so im really confused at what to do

any help would be great

(please dont tell me other colors i want brown and pink =) thanks though)

what im worried most is the furntire blending in w/ the wall

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Answer by Ginger
If you want 1/2 & 1/2,why do not you wall paper the bottom with a pattern that has the 3 main colors, then you can put your pink on top.

Answer by mustang_girl2008
I would do pink at the bottom, then the darker brown on top, with maybe a cream color in between?

I would not do the dark color on the bottom though because the furniture will blend in.

We did light blue, tan, and chocolate brown in our nursery colors but our furniture is antique white so no blending in there.

Good luck!!

Answer by Luv2Read
I think it sounds very pretty. I love the dark browns and pinks too. I think you might have a point about the dark furniture being too much up against the dark wall, it will definitely blend in. Maybe you could do a lighter brown at the bottom, pink on top, and have expresso colored wood seperating the two or a border in between (in the dark brown) to kinda tie it all together? Also, if you already have the bedding and other accessories, maybe you could incorporate some of those colors as well. For example, if there are 2 different shades of pink you could put the darker pink on bottom, lighter pink on top seperated by the dark brown in the middle.

I do not think i’d do the dark brown on top as suggested. I think that dark of brown all the way around the top half of the walls would be way too overpowering for a tiny girl’s room.

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Answer by samy
try lowes.

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Answer by Centaur
Grüß dich! How about a personalized sign that accents the décor? They have really nice ones here: http://www.mysweetandsour.com/ Check out “Safari Adventures” sign in the “Personalized Art” section. Tschüs!

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1: http://www.diapers.com/p/cocalo-daniella-six-piece-crib-set-72754

2: http://www.diapers.com/p/cocalo-sugar-plum-six-piece-crib-set-74534

Which do you like and more importantly…WHY? I am not sure if the difference between soothing and invigorating colors will affect the kid. Thanks in advance.

PS: The furniture is dark cherry and the walls and carpet can match with both. As a newborn the kid will sleep with in a bassinet but this is just to prepare the room as she gets older and help me with coping with pregnancy growing pains lol.
Well this bedding is actually cheaper in the store I am getting it from. It will not be from this costly site lol. Just trying to figure which to put on my registery. My sister is interested in getting it for us. It’s the only website that I can find to show you all with a superior picture of the wall art.

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Answer by Gav Brown
I think the one with the purple butterflies is cuter and cheerier, but the pink and brown would age with her better. I’d pickle the butterfly one, it’s more fun.

Answer by ……
I like the neutral colors of the first nursery set. You are going to have one lucky baby!

Answer by Gia
I would like the purple one! I love butterflies and the color. I am not so fond of hearts and pink. I think the purple one has a superior design on the fabric and it would go superior with your cheery furniture!

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My son is 5 months old. My husband and I did his entire nursery in Winnie-the-Pooh. We both loved Pooh growing up, m nursery was Pooh when I was an infant, Pooh is a bright interesting color- it only seemed natural for us to do his room in Pooh. And ironically, his favorite toy is a stuffed Pooh, its the only one he will babble with, and the only one he cries if you try to take away from him.

Her son is 3 years old and obcessed with Mickey Mouse.
I do not personally like Mickey Mouse, not because of Mickey himself, but because my ex (who was both sexually and phyiscally abusive) had a vintage Mickey collection. So now whenever I see Mickey, I think of him and its nearly like reliving that trauma again.

My friend knows why I hate Mickey and she knows why I love Pooh
yet she went out of her way to make sure everything that her son needed to spend the night was Mickey Mouse: the sheets for the toddler bed, the pillow, the stuffed animal he slept with, the shirt he changed into in the morning.

Which is all fine, he adores Mickey, its only natural to surround him with what he likes.
But then she did something that really pushed my buttons:
when she came to pick her son up, she took her son’s stuffed Mickey Mouse and pushed it into my son’s face, my son grabbed Mickey’s leg and pulled the toy down from his face
then she states “aww, he adores Mickey more than Pooh!”

This action was apart of a pattern of disrespectful behavior
(see question I posted yesterday: )

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Aqr8hHswDKHQUtBNV4p29Jrsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20090729081244AAjN5lH

I do not want to make a huge issue out of this, however I can shake my upset feeling.
How can I get past her continuous rude behavior?
(Especially when I do not think she realizes what she is doing.)

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Answer by Bag
If she doesn’t realize what she is doing then you have to let it go.

Only when it becomes intentional and malicious do you need to approach her about it.

Answer by dmg
I read the other post. I cannot really state if she is doing this stuff deliberately to annoy you or you are being too sensitive. Maybe you guys just spend too much time together? I mean, I love my sister, and I love doing things with our children together but we do not concur on everything and each now and then I need a few weeks off, you know?

Answer by Allie K
I think the ideal thing to do is speak to her about it. But when you are dont make it seem like you are yelling at her, or anything. Just state it brings back memories you dont want to remember. I was also a victim of sexual abusive, so i know its hard to forget. Than when you see something that reminds you of it, its the worst. I think she will comprehend if you speak to her and maybe he can still have mickey stuff but maybe not so much around you and in your own house. I hope i helped and good luck.

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So that is where we are at right now. We have talked about this dilema many times and will continue to do so until we reach a decision, but I would like to hear personal stories from other YA! users. Did you find out the gender before birth? Do you regret it? Why or why not? Any other advice?

BQ: We have actually narrowed down our name choices already. For two boys, we like Oliver and Charlie, and for a boy and a girl, we like Jack and Lucy. Any views you have to offer on these four names would be lovely, as well as middle name suggestions.

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Answer by ƥơƥƥɣ’s Mum
Well for my first I wanted it to be a surprize, but I was so darn curious by the end of the pregnancy that I told myself that with future babies, I’d want to find out. Lol.

No, blue is fine, or green or yellow. There are plenty of colors that will work. Pretty much the only one you’d have to stave off is pink + purple in case it’s boys.

Answer by Miranda:)
I found out the gender of my baby, but thats just because i was so curious.
If the both of you are so adamant about finding out/not finding out, he can ask the nurse and then not tell you, or you can have the nurse write it down and you can give it to him, you will just have to tell him not to accidentally give it away before they are born so that you can have your moment.

Answer by emma
Sense you are having twin i state kind the gender on one and not the other so you both will be happy a

ps. i think jack for a girl is not good because i am in middle school and there are girls that have guy names and get picked on all the time and now of day i state a adorable one-of-a-kind name would be good

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There is a book on infant care “Moms on Call”…I heard about it on a radio show and have read hundreds of wonderful reviews that were 99% positive. I have the book ordered but want to keep it packaged for my daughter-in-law, so it doesn’t appear used at all.
In the book, the authors advocate a swaddling blanket. They sell it on their website and I know now the size is 44″x44″. However, in the radio show they stated it needed to be a specific type of fabric. Their website does not have it in the colors of the baby’s nursery, so I am going to have one custom made.
Has anyone read this book and can tell me what type of fabric to get (as well as the border fabric).
Any one-of-a-kind ideas for a gift for her (my daughter-in-law? This is my first grandchild and I want to give her a special thank you gift just between us. I was thinking of starting a Willow Tree collection. Ideas?

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Answer by Kim B
I believe they use 100% cotton knit. Not just cotton but cotton knit. The knit means it has stretch. Not sure about the border fabric though. You could always pick out a complimenting color for the border fabric of the cotton knit and make your own border. Check out some of the bias tape sold in stores for ideas maybe. They might already have a brand that has stretch. Good luck. I loved swaddling blankets with my first daughter and will be using them on my second (due the 28th). Good luck.

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