Healthy Diet For Toddlers

Question by Veronica (hunters momma):
i am 17 and have a baby.. my mother does not listen to my rules! (sorry for the length please read)?
my name is rachel and i’m Veronica’s cousin.

i am seventeen and have a 16 month old little girl named kylie. i still go to high school full time. and i mean regular high school not nite school or anything else so i get up and go to our local hs at like 7 am until 3 pm. i am also active in the GRADS program which is like a support group for teenage mothers aimed to help them graduate and do extracurricular activitys and such ect, ect

My mother is a single mother too like me and watches my daughter during the day and when i have play practice. she also gets up at night w/ her during the week so i can rest up for school. i have tried getting up and my mother tells me to go back to bed. this was particularly hurtful to me when the baby was first born b/c i wanted to be there for her.

but to the point -i recently found out my mother has been giving kylie diet pepsi and chocolate while i’m at school. she also gives her sauces and things on her foods and sets them in front of her on her plate in her high chair. kylie makes a mess and gets food in her hair when she eats these messy foods. my mother literally will not grant me to make her plate myself or feed her. she grants kylie to “feed ” herself which actually makes more mess especially w/ the tons on sauce and things she gives her, which are unhealthy anyway. then she makes me clean her up after she granted her to make such a mess.

i have an older mom-shes 45, and when i say something to her she says “be a mom, rachel and clean your child yourself”

i am not trying to cop out of my child- i love her dearly and want the chance to do everything i can for her. i am not opposed to cleaning her or doing all the work, but my mother simply will not grant it. she says i will “mess things up.” i’m afraid if i push the bath after dinner issue to much she will do it herself and while i think she should if shes going to force her to get filthy like that she should clean her i’m afraid my mother will take away one of the only things she grants me to do w/ my lil girl.

also, kylie is overweight and my mother said she is not she will lose her “baby fat” when she starts activley running a lot and going to school and things. my peditrician says its b/c kylie is getting fed soda and candy and chips and when she was littler my mother dipped her paci in chocolate, caramel, and pancake syrup almost every morning when she had breakfast.

my mother said we are switching her dr to some1 “more modern” who will comprehend giving a child treats from gma is not a problem. i do not want to switch drs, but my mother already initiated the transfer of files to the dr she used for us kids, who i hate.

my mother tells me “not to worry” about what she feeds her b/c she will not put kylie in harms way for any thing and this new healthy way of life is rubbish. she says you only live once so do what you want. she applies this to kylie by saying if she likes it, give it to her.

it even got to the point 1 a.m my mother had been giving kylie hawaiian the entire evening before and i gave her some milk in her cup and at 1st she did not want it b/c it was not sweet enough like she, sadly, was used to. she made a sour face and did not want it in her mouth but i was working w/ her and she was starting to accept the milk, but my mother walked in and said “you do not want that stinky milk, do you?” and took it out of her hands, dumped it , and gave her sprite. i said mother omg and she said its sprite, not beer! relax.

if i persist to much i get grounded for mouthing off. what can i do i’m only 17 and hafta listen to my mother but where is the line to be drawn. i can’t force her to listen about my baby b/c she plain old do not have to, you kno what i mean? she even dismisses any thing or any notes drs send home or tv programs on infant/toddler health and diet.

help me what can i do?
one morning my mother had to go to court for my older brother and i left her w/ my aunt all day. when we went to drop her off my aunt said now later when my children get into there halloween candy after lunch is it ok if kylie has some? i said “i’d like not” and my mother just talked over me and said yes thats fine. i give her that all the time at home. and my aunt said ok if she gets it all the time then not a problem. i do not think my aunt even heard me.
52 is older for a mom. most 17 year olds mothers are in there thirties

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