Question by Sheen:
Dealing with newborn twins & a 2 year old at bedtime…?

We have 4 week old twins. Our 2 y/o wants to sleep in the same room as us because the babies are in the same room. We told her that the twins have to sleep in the room with us because they are babies & that she did not need to because she was our big girl. She then said she wanted the babies to sleep in the room with her, We told her that they could not because they are babies & need us & that we did not want them waking her up. She then started crying & whining to sleep in our room. We’ve spent 30 minutes trying to get her to go to bed or stay in her room at least but she won’t.

Any advice on how to handle this?


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Answer by Mimi
You need to make her stay in her room. I know of some parents who have door locks on the outside of the child’s door so they can keep them in their room. Sounds harsh, but effective and probably safer.

In the meantime you could switch up the bedtime routine to include one of you staying in her room longer until she is really drowsy and less likely to follow you out.

Answer by Lucia
Don’t let a two year old tell you how to structure your sleeping arrangements. You have two newborns to deal with and a lot of sleep deprivation already in the works, and this is not something a toddler can even come close to understanding. You need to save your strength for all your children, and it will not happen with the additional disruption of a two-year-old in your room. Can mother sleep with the newborns, and you or another family member sleep with her in her room on a mattress? (Assuming that she is new at sleeping in her own room). But if she was sleeping fine on her own before, I would just get someone to calm her down then let her sleep on her own. Let her cry and whine. This is for everyone’s good hers included. Good luck and remember they grow up eventually!

Answer by makenna’s mom
well if reason has not worked, than you have choices…. 1. you or your spouse sits in the room with her until she falls asleep……. or 2. you enforce the “no” answer and make her stay in her room. Unfortunately your daughter is confused, and feels left out now. she was the baby and only child now she’s getting the boot it’s difficult for her to understand, perhaps you could even grant her to sleep in your room on the floor on her mattress or something.

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