Comments on: WHY DO SOME PARENTS HAVE THEIR INFANT’S EARS PIERCED, BUT OBJECT TO A TEEN GETTING A NAVAL PIERCING? http://birthpolicy.org/179/why-do-some-parents-have-their-infants-ears-pierced-but-object-to-a-teen-getting-a-naval-piercing/ Sat, 26 Feb 2011 19:23:50 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: due 01/26/10 http://birthpolicy.org/179/why-do-some-parents-have-their-infants-ears-pierced-but-object-to-a-teen-getting-a-naval-piercing/#comment-963 due 01/26/10 Fri, 08 Oct 2010 13:51:38 +0000 http://birthpolicy.org/179/why-do-some-parents-have-their-infants-ears-pierced-but-object-to-a-teen-getting-a-naval-piercing/#comment-963 I had my ears pierced when I was 2 weeks old, my daughter will have her's pierced at the same time when she's born. I would never think of putting anything but real gold in my daughters ears, gold is so expensive because it's one of the precious metals that people are hardly ever allergic to. Most girls want their ears pierced, that's the truth, every girl I've met has at least wanted her ears pierced. I'm not even going to argue the multiple reasons why it's proven to be better to pierce an infants ears. A belly button piercing is very different from an ear piercing. I would not let my child get her belly button pierced until she hit at least 16 because what is the reason for getting it done? Because it's sexy and it's what's cool. I was 16 once I knew why I wanted my belly button pierced. That's the difference between an ear piercing and a body piercing. I had my ears pierced when I was 2 weeks old, my daughter will have her’s pierced at the same time when she’s born. I would never think of putting anything but real gold in my daughters ears, gold is so expensive because it’s one of the precious metals that people are hardly ever allergic to. Most girls want their ears pierced, that’s the truth, every girl I’ve met has at least wanted her ears pierced. I’m not even going to argue the multiple reasons why it’s proven to be better to pierce an infants ears.

A belly button piercing is very different from an ear piercing. I would not let my child get her belly button pierced until she hit at least 16 because what is the reason for getting it done? Because it’s sexy and it’s what’s cool. I was 16 once I knew why I wanted my belly button pierced. That’s the difference between an ear piercing and a body piercing.

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By: Lily's due Nov. 1 http://birthpolicy.org/179/why-do-some-parents-have-their-infants-ears-pierced-but-object-to-a-teen-getting-a-naval-piercing/#comment-962 Lily's due Nov. 1 Fri, 08 Oct 2010 13:33:10 +0000 http://birthpolicy.org/179/why-do-some-parents-have-their-infants-ears-pierced-but-object-to-a-teen-getting-a-naval-piercing/#comment-962 Because ear rings don't draw attention to the wrong areas. Everyone knows that belly rings are just there to draw attention to that area and girls are more likely to dress trashy if they have it pierced. An ear piercing isn't trashy...you don't have to be half naked to show them off and who gets "excited" over ear decorations anyway. Because ear rings don’t draw attention to the wrong areas. Everyone knows that belly rings are just there to draw attention to that area and girls are more likely to dress trashy if they have it pierced. An ear piercing isn’t trashy…you don’t have to be half naked to show them off and who gets “excited” over ear decorations anyway.

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By: Moira A http://birthpolicy.org/179/why-do-some-parents-have-their-infants-ears-pierced-but-object-to-a-teen-getting-a-naval-piercing/#comment-961 Moira A Fri, 08 Oct 2010 13:25:21 +0000 http://birthpolicy.org/179/why-do-some-parents-have-their-infants-ears-pierced-but-object-to-a-teen-getting-a-naval-piercing/#comment-961 You sound bitter. I am sure there are as many parents out there who agree with you, as there are who think it is fine to pierce their babies' ears. I personally have my babies' ears pierced in infancy so they are healed and painless before they can remember it. If they get infected, I will bear the responsibility for doctor bills and caring for the wound until it heals. Most teens couldn't afford a doctor bill alone. If my teen wanted body piercings and she was able to pay for the piercings, care for them herself and afford the doctor in the event that they got infected, I would be fine with her having herself pierced. My main point is that the one who bears the responsibility should make the decision. At 16, I was working 30 hours a week to pay for my car (insurance, maintenance, gas and the vehicle itself) and my own private school tuition. I was responsible for buying my own clothes and my meals (school lunch included) unless I ate at home. I did my own laundry and carried a share of the housework in the home that my parents and I shared. I helped with childcare for my younger siblings. In other words, I carried an adult's burden. Consequently, I was allowed to make my own decisions and live with them! I did not do anything stupid because I would have had to pay for it myself! I'm sure my parents didn't always love my clothes, but they respected my right to wear them. If your parents aren't respecting you, maybe you need to look at how much respect you are giving them. Maybe when you go to them and say, "I've gotten a job and will be paying my own tuition and my phone bill from now on so you don't have to worry about it anymore", they will say "Wow! Our baby is growing up- I guess she is mature enough to know what she wants". Good luck! You sound bitter. I am sure there are as many parents out there who agree with you, as there are who think it is fine to pierce their babies’ ears. I personally have my babies’ ears pierced in infancy so they are healed and painless before they can remember it. If they get infected, I will bear the responsibility for doctor bills and caring for the wound until it heals. Most teens couldn’t afford a doctor bill alone.

If my teen wanted body piercings and she was able to pay for the piercings, care for them herself and afford the doctor in the event that they got infected, I would be fine with her having herself pierced.

My main point is that the one who bears the responsibility should make the decision. At 16, I was working 30 hours a week to pay for my car (insurance, maintenance, gas and the vehicle itself) and my own private school tuition. I was responsible for buying my own clothes and my meals (school lunch included) unless I ate at home. I did my own laundry and carried a share of the housework in the home that my parents and I shared. I helped with childcare for my younger siblings. In other words, I carried an adult’s burden.

Consequently, I was allowed to make my own decisions and live with them! I did not do anything stupid because I would have had to pay for it myself! I’m sure my parents didn’t always love my clothes, but they respected my right to wear them. If your parents aren’t respecting you, maybe you need to look at how much respect you are giving them. Maybe when you go to them and say, “I’ve gotten a job and will be paying my own tuition and my phone bill from now on so you don’t have to worry about it anymore”, they will say “Wow! Our baby is growing up- I guess she is mature enough to know what she wants”.

Good luck!

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By: Baby on Board (alt. name) http://birthpolicy.org/179/why-do-some-parents-have-their-infants-ears-pierced-but-object-to-a-teen-getting-a-naval-piercing/#comment-960 Baby on Board (alt. name) Fri, 08 Oct 2010 12:36:50 +0000 http://birthpolicy.org/179/why-do-some-parents-have-their-infants-ears-pierced-but-object-to-a-teen-getting-a-naval-piercing/#comment-960 I have no issues with either one. Piercing a baby's ears is no more likely to cause issues than piercing an older child's ears. I had mine (my head, not my daughters) pierced as an infant and had no issues at all. I think a mother would be able to tell if her baby had an allergic reaction to the earring. I don't think it looks trashy on babies, often they are helpful when determining the gender (which was why my mom did mine!). I think as long as the parents are willing to care for the piercing properly, it is not a big deal. Def not worse than people who cut off the foreskin of their baby boys. I have done neither to any of my children (earrings or circumcision). I see no need for excess pain. As for teenagers with belly button piercings, I have no problem with them either. I had mine done when I was 21 and I REALLY wish I hadn't had it done. My body rejected the piercing and pushed the bar out the front of my belly button. I have a scar there now that will never go away. And I really wish I had not made that decision. It was not even something I got to enjoy that much. I don't think it looks trashy, but it can have just as many issues as getting ears pierced, if not more. I have no issues with either one. Piercing a baby’s ears is no more likely to cause issues than piercing an older child’s ears. I had mine (my head, not my daughters) pierced as an infant and had no issues at all. I think a mother would be able to tell if her baby had an allergic reaction to the earring. I don’t think it looks trashy on babies, often they are helpful when determining the gender (which was why my mom did mine!). I think as long as the parents are willing to care for the piercing properly, it is not a big deal. Def not worse than people who cut off the foreskin of their baby boys. I have done neither to any of my children (earrings or circumcision). I see no need for excess pain. As for teenagers with belly button piercings, I have no problem with them either. I had mine done when I was 21 and I REALLY wish I hadn’t had it done. My body rejected the piercing and pushed the bar out the front of my belly button. I have a scar there now that will never go away. And I really wish I had not made that decision. It was not even something I got to enjoy that much. I don’t think it looks trashy, but it can have just as many issues as getting ears pierced, if not more.

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By: Jessica P http://birthpolicy.org/179/why-do-some-parents-have-their-infants-ears-pierced-but-object-to-a-teen-getting-a-naval-piercing/#comment-959 Jessica P Fri, 08 Oct 2010 11:47:19 +0000 http://birthpolicy.org/179/why-do-some-parents-have-their-infants-ears-pierced-but-object-to-a-teen-getting-a-naval-piercing/#comment-959 it's a matter of opinion. but almost everyone has their ears pierced... that is just an addition to any girls waredrobe. but a navel piercing is a piercing that a girl gets when she's trying to be cool, hot, or sexual. and yes many people think a piercing anywhere but ear lobes is trashy. and unless she's trying to be "sexy" noone's gonna see it. that's why she wants it. ear piercings are not the same as any body piercing. it’s a matter of opinion. but almost everyone has their ears pierced… that is just an addition to any girls waredrobe. but a navel piercing is a piercing that a girl gets when she’s trying to be cool, hot, or sexual. and yes many people think a piercing anywhere but ear lobes is trashy. and unless she’s trying to be “sexy” noone’s gonna see it. that’s why she wants it. ear piercings are not the same as any body piercing.

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By: midnightmoon http://birthpolicy.org/179/why-do-some-parents-have-their-infants-ears-pierced-but-object-to-a-teen-getting-a-naval-piercing/#comment-958 midnightmoon Fri, 08 Oct 2010 11:19:08 +0000 http://birthpolicy.org/179/why-do-some-parents-have-their-infants-ears-pierced-but-object-to-a-teen-getting-a-naval-piercing/#comment-958 I think most parents assume that the teen wants the belly peircing so she can show it off while wearing immodest clothing. I didnt answer the first question, but I do think piercings should be an adult decision. I did say with the belly that if you are picking your battles, its not a bad thing to allow them to do. I think most parents assume that the teen wants the belly peircing so she can show it off while wearing immodest clothing.

I didnt answer the first question, but I do think piercings should be an adult decision. I did say with the belly that if you are picking your battles, its not a bad thing to allow them to do.

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